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Episode 33

Soul Healing Sundays: Sufficiency Mindset

How many times a day do you think ‘I don’t have enough’ or ‘there isn’t enough’ or ‘I need more’? We’re constantly thinking we don’t have enough of something, but we actually have plenty. We just need to increase our capacity to realize our sufficiency and choose appropriately what to spend our time and focus on.

It’s so easy to focus on what we lack instead of what we have, but what we fail to realize is that we create lack or scarcity in our resources with our beliefs. With our inability to judge when we have sufficiency, we develop a habit and mindset that can be difficult to overcome. When we have this limitation mindset, we run the risk of thinking that as well as not having enough, we are not enough.

Tune in this week where I’ll be sharing five main areas we feel a lack in our lives and explain why we feel that way. I’ll show you why scarcity is a myth and why there is so much abundance in the universe, but we have to be open to receiving it. It’s time to learn to let go of the lack mindset! Remember, you have enough and you are enough.

WHAT YOU’LL DISCOVER

How to convert your scarcity mindset into a sufficiency mindset.
What consumerism is and why it is such a problem.
Some exercises you can do to practice sufficiency.
The importance of prioritizing things that are important to you.
How to apply gratitude and appreciation to your life as it is right now.

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TRANSCRIPT

Susan: Welcome to Becoming Virtuosa presents Soul Healing Sundays The Podcast with Dr. Susan Crockett. You’re listening to episode number 33, Sufficiency Mindset. This episode is dedicated to all those who need more love in their lives, which is basically all of us.

Female Announcer: Welcome to Becoming Virtuosa, where women learn to love their lives. Do you find yourself frustrated by society’s expectations? Looking for practice advice on how to discover your talents and level up your life? You’ve found the right place. Here’s your host, US News top doctor, robotic surgeon and certified life coach, Dr. Susan Crockett.

Susan: Hello, my virtuosas, I’m your host, Dr. Susan Crockett. You can call me Sue as long as we’re chatting on the podcast since I’m not your doctor today. I’m just chatting with you and teaching you, hopefully bringing you something that’ll help heal your soul. Did you notice that we changed the title of the podcast and we’ve shifted it Sundays? How about that?

So, we’ve made a decision to shift the Wednesday Becoming Virtuosa podcasts to Sundays and to call them Soul Healing Sundays since that’s kind of what we’re doing is we’re working on healing our spirit, our soul, our minds and so this just kind of fits better. Plus, y’all, I’m ashamed to tell y’all this, but I’m a huge procrastinator. I am. I seem so diligent when I look at oh, I’m on podcast number 33 in 33 weeks, but y’all this is just not natural to me and I’ve driven Pavel just about crazy not getting my podcast in on time.

So, today I’ve actually recorded three podcasts. This is the third one that I’m recording, but it’s actually the first of the next three. So, I recorded the next two interviews and this one today. So, it’s Labor Day. It’s been a beautiful day here. I’ve spent my Labor Day laboring, ha ha, funny as an OB/GYN I was laboring on Labor Day. Not that kind of laboring, anyway, Ollie is sitting behind me as always, my little dog, Ollie who is my constant companion, my little helper. I’m glad that you could join us today for our first of many Soul Healing Sundays.

So, in today’s show we’re going to be talking about sufficiencies, sufficiency mindset. Let’s just think about this for a second, we’re going to talk about sufficiency and learning a mindset of sufficiency and all the things that we think we lack. How many times a day – I bet you couldn’t even count even if you had a clicker counter – how many times a day do you think, “I don’t have enough,” or, “There isn’t enough,” or, “I need more”? “I need more love. I need more energy. I don’t have enough food. I don’t enough freedom. I don’t have enough opportunity or respect or power or money or beauty or influence or fame or education or sex or exercise or work or sex or profits or leisure time or toys or whatever?

All of that stuff constantly we’re thinking, “I don’t have enough. I don’t have enough rest.” It’s not enough rest it’s not enough things to do. Anyway, that’s where we’re going for today is we’re going to have some soul healing on this issue of scarcity and lack. As always, we’re going to have a lesson and then we’re going to have a lesson and then we’re going to have an exercise at the end for you guys and I hope you enjoy it.

Okay, so we’re going to start with the definition of sufficiency. Sufficiency is having an adequate amount of something especially of something essential. So, we typically think of it as like food or money or shelter. It can also mean self-sufficiency or independence, being a self-sufficient woman, which is all great and fine, but that’s not really what we’re talking here. What we’re talking about is the opposite of lack and it’s kind of like abundance, right? It’s the opposite of lack or scarcity but it is not a glass half empty or half full.

So, if you saw me post on my Facebook page earlier this week, we did a 5-part little mini-course series on my Facebook page leading up to today’s podcast, so you can go check that out if you want. It’s Sue Olsta Crockett, that’s my Facebook page and it’s public, you can see whatever’s on there.

Anyway, I posted a post on Monday with an overview of this course, what we’re talking about and I posted this really funny picture about a whole bunch of glasses half full and how different ways of thinking and philosophies might look at as pretty and cute, but the point is that there is no glass. There is no half-empty, half-full, there’s no constraint. It’s artificial we put it there. It doesn’t exist.

It’s kind of like there’s no pie. We’re all struggling to get our piece of the pie and not let everybody take what we’ve got and we only think that there’s a limited amount of resource and we have to fight over it and it’s scare. Life is not pie. There is no pie. That’s a huge myth and we’re going to talk about that, too.

So, let’s start with the great pie myth. When I first started my OB/GYN practice – I was part of several groups before I started my own practice, but one of the common, recurring themes that I see in medical practice is this idea of getting our patients, like I needed to get my patient load.

It was my patient list, I controlled it as a source on ongoing income. It was where I got my surgical cases from, my OB cases, we built up our patient list and in the old practice of medicine, the old model of medicine which has pretty much gone by the wayside now, those patient charts were the practice so that when a physician got older he sold the asset which was the patient charts, or how many patients you had to the next physician and that was as I said in the practice that’s largely gone away now.

Patients go all over the place whenever they want and they’re directed by insurance, so the whole practice of that getting your patient load and your piece of the pie is starting to fade. But there’s still a lot of “competition” for patients as if there’s a limit to how many patients there are.

At first you might think, well, there are. Like, there’s only a limited number of patients in a population and then what you realize is that we are constantly creating ways to engage with people and their health and to offer better support, better health and it’s not a pie. There’s constantly people coming in, our population is expanding. You don’t have to fight for your piece, it’s overflowing.

So, the piece of the pie is a great myth. There’s not a scarcity pie. A lot of you are mothers and as an OB I’ve certainly delivered my share of children and taken care of lots and lots of moms. So, do you remember when you were a mom for the first time and you thought, “I’ve got this one child. I love them more than life itself. I could never love anybody any more than this child,” and then you got pregnant with your second one? And you’re like, “Oh no, what am I going to do? I’m going to have to split my love.” Remember what happened? The second one was born and your love expanded, it grew.

You didn’t love the first one any less and you love the second one even more and more. So, this is a great example of how love is not a pie. It’s created, it grows. We create it. It comes through us. It flows through us and our creative power is what grows it in our lives. So it is with everything in our lives. Everything that I listed off at the very beginning of the podcast that we feel like we have lack in it’s all flowing through us. There is no pie. You can name of those things, there’s not scarcity.

So, I’ve got a quote for y’all from Paul Zaiter, ” There is a natural law of abundance which pervades the entire universe, but it will not flow through a doorway of belief in lack and limitation.” Let me say that again. “…it will not flow through a doorway of belief in lack and limitation.”

So, what we believe, what we choose to think – we’ve talked so much about the CTFAR Model and how our thoughts create our feelings, create our actions, create our results. Live flows through us. Abundance in every area flows with the laws, the natural laws of the universe. It pervades everything and it will not flow through us, the doorway into us and through us and into expansion and creation if we are sitting there in belief of lack and limitation.

Today, I’m going to talk about five primary lacks in our own life. If you’ve joined me on the Facebook course I did a day for each one, just a little short course, but we’re going to talk about each one there and the five primary lacks that I’m going to address are lack of time, money, health or beauty, capacity – which I define as power, respect, ability, influence or fame – and the fifth one is love. So, time, money, health, capacity, and love.

One of the big reasons that we feel lack in these five areas in our life is that we don’t know when we’re full. We, as a society, have lost the ability to tell when we are full, when we have had enough, when we have sufficient and then it results in overindulging or over-holding onto things, hoarding, like toilet paper, other things that we have more than we need to at times, when we actually have enough to be sufficient.

So, we create lack or we create scarcity in our resources by our belief that we have lack and that we don’t know when we’re full and we can’t judge when we have sufficiency. So, here’s the big problem with this, other than consumerism which takes the focus off of people in society and community and humanity and puts it on things or money as our priority, the really big problem is that when we have a lack or a limitation mindset and we’re constantly thinking we don’t have enough of this or that or the next thing we run the risk of thinking that we are not enough.

Now, I know y’all know what I’m talking about. I have had so many conversations with patients who are moms who are trying to do work at home on Zoom and take care of their kids and take care of their husbands and their families and there is a really easy line to cross into feeling there is not enough time, there is not enough resource, there is not enough me and therefore I am not enough. I’m here to tell you today that you are everything. You are sufficient. You are more than enough and you overflowing in sufficiency. I’m going to help you see that today and help you gain a peace in your soul about this.

Let’s start with the sufficiency of time. Time doesn’t change. It’s really interesting because time is well, time is what we assign in a false constraint, but in any case, time is a set pattern, it’s not something that grows or expands or shrinks, but we think it does by our perception, right? We think time moves by so slowly when we’re doing something really boring or it flies by when we’re doing something really fun or when we have a deadline for Pavel to turn in the podcast it seems to fly by. Where did the days go? And sometimes we just don’t notice it all. We get so engrossed in what we’re doing that it becomes completely irrelevant and we step outside of time into our own existential existence. That happens when you’re in the zone, like if you’ve ever done sports or music or art or read a good book or sometimes driving even, you look up and you’re like, “How did I get here?” That’s that kind of sensation of time.

So, actually, time doesn’t change at all. It’s our perception or our thoughts about it, right? The other thing is we can’t create more time, there’s no such thing, like what you have to do is carve out the time that you want to prioritize for the things that are important to you. So, I’m not going to go super deep into this because actually in two weeks I’ve done a podcast with Ceri Payne on scheduling and increasing your capacity and so I really want y’all to tune in for that. That was one of the podcasts that I recorded earlier today.

But just basically to overcome feeling like we don’t have enough time for things is what we really need to do is to schedule ourselves to prioritize our values because when we don’t schedule and we don’t look at what we’re spending our time on we end up spending it on everything and then it feels like we don’t have any time. So, what we want to do is recreate ourselves and increase our capacity based on what we prioritize to spend our time on.

We have plenty of time to do things that matter the most to us. I’ve got a really fun story that’s one of my favorite stories from – oh man, I’d say I was in residency when I first read Stephen Covey, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. It’s on my bookshelf somewhere, I think still, anyway Stephen Covey does all this time management stuff, a whole guru of it. He’s got this great story.

So, basically here’s how the story goes, in class one day a professor set a large glass jar on the table in front of him and began placing large rocks in it until they reached the top. He asked his students, “Is this jar full?” And in unison they shouted, “Yes.” And the teacher replied, “Really?” He then grabbed some gravel from under the table and proceeded to dump it into the jar occasionally shaking it and adding more until the gravel filled the spaces between the rocks.

He asked again, “Is the jar full?” This time some nodded yes and most didn’t say a word. The professor reached again under the table and this time pulled out a cup of sand and he dumped the sand in the jar and asked, “Is it full now?” The students mumbled, “Probably not.”

He smiled wryly and then poured a nearby glass of water until it brimmed to the top and he declared. “Now it’s full.” His point to the students was there is almost always more one can fit into his or her jar, but prioritization requires us to decide what to add first. If the professor had not placed the large rocks in the jar before the gravel, sand, and water they wouldn’t have fit. Small items would have consumed the space.

We often forget this lesson at work filling our schedules daily with the minutia. Doing this jeopardizes our achieving the bigger objectives. We have to remember, big rocks come first. Then, fill in only the smaller items that support those larger objectives.

So, I love the story. I actually have an even funnier story of how this played out in real life in the hospital. A couple of years ago now, it’s been about six years, I joined the staff at Northeast Methodist Hospital in San Antonio and at that time it was a pretty small community hospital. There was a new CEO there and a new physician advocate and really small, very tightknit OR. Physicians were a really tightknit community. They had all been there for a long time or most of them, and they knew each other really well.

It’s the kind of place that has been there for 20, 30 years and they love being there, so when I came in I couldn’t get OR time. I couldn’t get operating room time, so in the operating room as surgeons we get what’s called block time. You see where I’m going with this, right? Blocks, right?

So, in most places we have block time based on how much surgery we can guarantee and produce and manifest for the hospital. So, it works in both ways. It works in a surgeon’s favor because you get your protected time to schedule your cases and it works in the hospital’s favor because then you have your time filled up.

I walked into the OR and I had been asked to start a robotic surgery program there, I became the Director of the Robotics Program and then also to start women’s health at this hospital that had dormant for about 20 years and I walked into the OR and looked at the board and I’m like, “Well, show me your block schedule.” They laughed at me. It didn’t exist. It’s just like whoever wants the OR whenever, so I could not get enough space to block my time.

We kind of went round and round, kind of funny, ha ha, with administration and talked about it and then one day I had enough of it and I remember this Stephen Covey story and I got a mason jar, I found these blocks that look like the ABC blocks that little kids play with and I put them in the jar and then filled it up. Then I put Skittles in around it. Then I took Pixy Sticks candy and I poured it in around it. I put it on my CEO’s desk, he must’ve thought I was crazy.

I put it on his desk with the Stephen Covey and a little note that said, “Blocks, get it? Block time, please.” My point was you have to schedule the blocks in first. You have to schedule the priority or the block time first and then you fill in all the other spaces with the smaller cases and, of course, that’s what we did and now we’ve got a flourishing OR, a great robotics program, anyway all that to tell y’all that when it comes to not having enough time if you learn to schedule and prioritize based on your blocks, the big things that are important to you, it makes the whole rest of it better and suddenly your time feels sufficient.

So, the second thing we’re going to talk about is sufficiency of money. So, money is really interesting. A lot of people have this idea that you need to earn and work for it and collect and horde it and have enough it and have more than enough of it, particularly in our society it’s really interesting to watch.

The really interesting thing about money is that no matter how much or how little you have of it you also seem to want more. You always think that it would be easier when you have more so I see people who make $30,000 a year who want $35,000 a year and then everything would be great. Then I see people who make $300,000 a year think, “Oh, if I only had $350,000 a year then life would be great,” and then I know millionaires and billionaires, they all have the same problems and they are all having the same levels of anxiety about managing it and not having it. Having the money doesn’t fix it, so the scarcity mindset is pervasive amongst the different levels of financial wealth in our society.

Here’s how I like to think about money and my investment advisor he makes fun of me on this, that’s okay, Hugh, you can do that, that’s fine. I think money circulates. I think it circulates like breath. Like we breathe in air, we breathe out air, it comes in, it goes out. I think all of these things that we’re talking about that we worry about, having lack in are things that circulate and money does too.

It can be created, people fight over it, they kill over it, they prioritize it above people, wars are fought over it. So, how much is sufficient and how do you get to a sufficiency mindset when it comes to money? Well, according to my investment advisor, Hugh, I’m way behind for my age in where I am in my business in life and all of that, so I’m like, “Okay,” but I’m way ahead of where my parents were at my age.

My dad was just starting his business and was nowhere near what I am right now. So, in my mind, I’m way ahead and then there are people who have a scarcity mindset about money and they want to take money from the people that have more than them. And then there’s other people that sit and suffer and suffer in their lack and just have anxiety and can’t meet their bills and they suffer in that lack and that mentality.

What I’ve come to is a place to settle into where I have sufficiency. Nobody can take it from me. I’m breathing it out anyway. It comes in, it goes out. I can create more. I know how to have a business. I know how to create more. The whole thing could come crashing down, in fact, it has. I completely failed miserably at a business in the early 2000s and you know what? I know how to make more.

So, I’m self-sufficient in that way and it gives me freedom. It gives me freedom from having anxiety and stress about lack and where is it going to come from? It’s just money. It’s just money.

The big cure is charity. So, if we’re breathing in and breathing out charity is the metaphor, how do we know when we have enough? How do we decide when to give to others? Most people wait until they’re in a position of excessive finances to start giving to others, but I’m going to suggest to you that real sufficiency practice, this breathing in, breathing out way of being starts earlier.

So, in our churches they talk about tithing or giving and this is part of the principle, other than taking care of the church financially and responsibility, the principle of giving or having that charity and having money flow in and out in-between people is part of how our gifts interact with each other and how our world works. That’s the sufficiency of money cure is charity giving.

Let’s talk about scarcity in health and beauty. This is something that becomes more and more difficult as women age. I see women coming into my practice in their 40s and 50s and it’s really a pivotal point in their life where they’re really starting to give up and give into unhealthy habits and decline. You start seeing their bodies break down, their minds break down, they sit down. That’s the kind of old age they have or you see them thriving and being active and eating healthy and moving and engaged in love and life and having that abundance mindset even though their bodies are still aging.

I want to ask you about this, have you ever looked back at pictures of yourself when you were younger and you thought, “Wow, she was really young,” or, “She was beautiful,” or, “She wasn’t as fat as I thought she was at the time,” and you remember how you thought about yourself at that time and you look at yourself now and from your future self look back at your past self and you’re like, “Oh my gosh, what was I thinking?”

So, that’s a really interesting exercise to do because you could play that forward. You can pretend that you’re looking at yourself from your future self 15 years into the future and you can appreciation, gratitude of yourself and how you are and how you look and just how you show up in the world the way you are now and you can start applying that gratitude to appreciating your body.

Y’all who have listened to me for any length of time know that I’ve got a bad thing with Cheetos. I have a bad Cheetos habit, that’s my thing. Well, it used to be my thing. So, a funny story, about three weeks ago I started working on myself becoming healthier with my diet and exercise, and I had just gotten to a place where I’m like over it. I’ve really struggled with it for a long time and I’ve never been like seriously overweight, but for the last three years or so I’ve been stable but I’ve just had those few extra pounds, like 30, that I’ve wanted to get off and the Cheetos just have not been helping it at all.

So, I realized that I was coming from a scarcity mindset. I was going to have to deprive myself those Cheetos and I hated how my body looked, and I had a fear that my blood pressure was going to be bad, or that I was unattractive or that I would lose my ability to do things with my kids and you know where all of that thinking got me? Nowhere. It got me nowhere.

Once I started appreciating my body and having gratitude for what I am and where I am and wanting to take care of it, I’ve dropped 14 pounds, 14 pounds, y’all, and I feel great. I have the desire to exercise more and to move more and engage more in life. The body reinforces its own progress.

You start to see small changes and you think, “Ah, I’ve got a little bit of muscle there and a little cut there, less fat there.” Here’s the thing is I’ve lost my desire for Cheetos like completely. I went into the surgeon’s lounge today, I’m doing rounds this morning, I forgot to look at the Cheetos. They’re all sitting there on a rack with the other chips and I didn’t even think to look at them, so it’s not like I’m sitting there white-knuckling the urge to have them. I don’t even care about them at all and this is the freedom that I wanted to teach you guys about.

This is possible for you to actually not have a desire for these things that you don’t want to have. So, what I’ve learned is that my body and my health and my physical, how I appear, they’re sufficient. God has made me the way I am. I might now like my chubby cheeks, but my patients love my smile and my crinkly eyes. They’re not crinkly really, but my eyes have a very sincere look because they’re hooded. I’ve been told that a whole lot, so it’s part of my persona and how they relate to me and they see me as a physician. For me to be hyper-critical about my phase or how I look it just doesn’t serve anybody.

So, I’m going to suggest that the cure for scarcity in health and beauty is gratitude for your current body and gratitude for what it can do and for taking care of it for the years to come so that it can continue to serve you the way you want it to serve you.

Let’s talk about scarcity in capacity. This is also one that I’m just barely going to touch on. Capacity, I kind of rolled in power, respect, influence, and ability into these things. Capacity is our ability to have influence in the world around us. Our capacity to handle things that we couldn’t handle before.

We’re continually, hopefully, growing. If you’re listening to this podcase and Becoming Virtuosa or reaching for the best version of yourself then we’re continually growing or expanding, enlarging our circle trying to increase our capacity. So, what I can handle now, this is a great example, y’all know from my very first podcast that I was like, “Okay, here we go. I’m not a podcaster, I’m becoming a podcaster,” so that was a big, obvious step of moving up in capacity, but that capacity is continuing to grow as I respond to the calling of what I’m supposed to be doing.

There’s some really cool stuff coming up in February down the line, a couple months from now that’s requiring me to learn how to increase my capacity. So, what’s the cure for that? How do we do that other than listening to my podcasts so that you learn how to transform and grow and manage your mind which is an excellent way to do that?

The cure for scarcity in capacity is appreciation. So, I mentioned before that Ceri Payne and I do a podcast interview on this in two weeks, and so I really want you to tune into that. That’s why I’m not going to spend 30 minutes doing a talk about it right now, but basically what we appreciate appreciates.

If you have a feeling that you aren’t powerful enough or you don’t have enough respect or you don’t have enough influence or ability or education, any of those things, “What you appreciate appreciates.” That’s a quote from Lynne Twist who wrote The Soul of Money. That’s the cure for scarcity in capacity.

Now, I’ve saved the best for last. It’s probably the most difficult one, I think, but it’s the most universal which is scarcity in love. The most primal urge, the most primal desire, the most base urge for all human beings is to be loved. We all want to be loved and to have someone to love. Maybe you’ve had scarcity of love in your life.

Maybe your parents didn’t love you the way you needed to be loved or maybe you don’t feel like your husband or your wife loves you the way you want to be loved. Maybe if you’re single, you’re thinking, “There aren’t enough good men,” or, “There are not enough good women. I can’t find one to love – I can’t find a good one to love.”
There’s also this concept unrequited love or unsatisfied or unreciprocated love which can be an unfulfilled love or rejection which can happen – sometimes we see it in cases in my practice like fertility cases where somebody wants to get pregnant really, really badly and they have this desire, this love for children and it’s not answered. That’s a little bit different from a rejection from an interaction with another human being, but I think that’s a type of unrequited love. It’s an unsatisfied or an unclosed desire or love.

One of our most basic primal instincts as humans is to not be separated or outcast from the tribe, to avoid being not included. So, the cure is to see love from a sufficiency mindset or an abundance mindset. It is the most powerful, expansive, limitless force in the universe. We are a conduit for love. We are little mini-capacitors for love.

We receive it, we magnify it, if we allow it to magnify within ourselves, and then we let it flow and go through and sent out towards the others around us. That’s how we’re connected to everybody and everything in the whole universe. There is no end to love. Love is without limits. Thinks of a galaxy that’s constantly expanding. Our motto on here is, “Love draws a bigger circle.” It’s constantly expanding, constantly including.

The Bible says, “God is love.” Whatever your concept of God, this is an interesting thing to apply to it. So, if you don’t have a Judeo-Christian conceptualization of God, I challenge you to apply this to how you think about the heart of the universe or the soul of universe and see if it matches. Does it match? To think that is love, that that is the definition of it.

There’s a quote that comes from Romans, Roman 8:38-39 which I think is really important for us to think about here. There’s a quote that says, “I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. So, neither death nor life nor angels nor demons, neither are fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow. Not even the powers of Hell can separate us from God’s love. No power in the sky above or in the Earth below, indeed nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

I think this is fascinating verse. So, if you’re looking at it from the outside, pretend you’re not a Christian. Maybe you’re a Christian who’s been in the church your whole life, you know this like the back of your hand. I think this is another version of it, but just step – do this with me, step outside of it for just think about what this means. What it means for you to be so connected to the love of the universe, the whole being of the universe, and that includes everybody in it even those people that you’re fighting with about the elections right now. It includes everyone. We are all connected and this is the most basic way that we are connected is through love.

Then, as Christians we throw around the stories of Christ and Jesus and sometimes it’s really important for us to step back and actually look at what things like this mean. So, not only is this verse talking about all the things that can’t separate us, there’s nothing that can separate us from the universal love, but also, it’s an explanation that Christ was the biggest metaphor for that. He was the incarnate version of that.

So, I like to think of him when I think about Christ as my teacher and how he came to Earth and what he’s teaching and the example, he is the perfect example, and also a metaphor, an allegory of love personified. So, not only is God love, but Jesus is the incarnate version of that just as an aside.

What I want you to take from this is if you are feeling a lack of love in your life or a scarcity of love in your life what I want you to understand is you always have access to the abundance of the love of the universe. You are not alone. You are connected and interconnected with the love that weaves throughout the whole universe.

So, that’s all I have for today. That was a lot. It’s actually a pretty long podcast today. Thanks for hanging in there if you’ve gotten this far. For your exercise this week, this came to as I was actually in Target yesterday. I was walking through Target and I had my list of three things that I needed and I looked at my cart and I had like 10 things in my cart and I thought, “This is ridiculous, where does this come into this sufficiency talk that I’m planning?” What I realized is I could start walking through the store and thinking, “I have enough of that. I don’t need that. I have sufficient chicken in my pantry. I don’t need another wad of toilet paper or Cheetos,” or whatever, “I have sufficiency.”

So, if you really want a challenge for this exercise go walk through the grocery store when you’re hungry and practice sufficiency, practice the idea that you have enough and that you can just go home and eat what you want. You don’t have to buy $15 million more worth of food because you’re hungry.

If you’re a compulsive spending practice saying, “I am sufficient at home, and I don’t need to stockpile X, Y, and Z.” If you’re a price tag reader or counter what I want you to do is set enough in your bank account before you go with your list of things that you know that you have more than enough to cover it. Instead of taking your calculator like you usually do and calculating every penny and dime, I want you to let go of that and practice knowing that you have sufficient money to buy what you need.

I want you to practice sufficiency. If you happen to get to the cash register and you’ve got a little bit over, you can put something back, that’s no big deal, but the practice of letting go of the lack mindset and that you don’t have enough and you have to count every penny, it’s a lack mindset. I want you to practice sufficiency mindset. You’ll be happier.

All right, so what I’ve shown you today, we’ve talked about sufficiency mindset and we talked about the five most common scarcity mindsets and I flipped them for you to show you the scarcity mindset and then the sufficiency mindsets that are the cure.

Now, we come to the part of the show where we talk about what we’re listening and reading, I don’t have anything that I’m watching this week. I’ve been too busy doing podcasts. What I’m listening to kind of an older song by Sister Hazel, it’s called “This Kind of Love.” I really love this song because I think it describes the ultimate receiving and letting love flow through you kind of song. You give it, you build it, this is perfect love. And it’s just mellow and it’s cool, so listen to it if you’d like. I will put the link to a YouTube video in the podcast notes.

What I’m reading, one I mentioned Lynn Twist, The Soul of Money which she goes a whole lot further into sufficiency with money and commercialism and what’s going on with our planet and just is an amazing teacher, author. I found her on Oprah Winfrey’s Super Soul Sunday, so if we can find it I’ll put the link to the Super Soul Sunday interview with Oprah on there, too. But the other book I’m reading is called Effortless Mastery: Liberating the Master Musician Within it’s by Kenny Werner.

Here’s what the little book cover says, it says, “Playing music should be as simple and natural as drawing a breath yet most musicians are hindered by self-consciousness, apprehension, self-doubt, and stress. Does that sound familiar? Kind of like, lack, right?

So, I was raised as a musician this way, I was raised classically, you don’t miss a note, you stress about making a mistake, and I never got the point where music flowed from me that way, so here’s the rest of the jacket, “Before we can truly express our inner self we must first to be at peace and overcome the distractions that can make performance difficult.

Kenny’s remarkable work deals directly with these hindrances and presents ways to let our natural, creative powers flow freely with minimal stress and effort.” So, I feel like that’s what we’re doing in our soul and in our spirit, and working towards changing our mindset toward a sufficiency mindset.

We’re removing the blocks and allowing our natural creative love to connect us to everybody else and for sufficiency to flow from us. So, next week I’m going to be interviewing Emily Strickler about owning your own emotions to love your partner more which is going to be completely fascinating because I am in the middle of a divorce right now. It’s almost over. So, that’s going to be fascinating. Join us next week. Okay, my virtuosas you have enough. I want you to remember this, you have enough of everything. You have sufficiency and you are enough. Now, go have a wonderful week. Love always, Sue.  I will see you next week in episode number 34.

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